Yes Means Yes blog: “visions of female sexual power & a world without rape”
Parents, siblings, carers, cousins, teachers, tutors, mentors, aunts, uncles, etc, of young children: we have a chance to mold the gender relations of the future.
no. this sacred time where we are mourning our elder is not yours. the waters that will take him to the ancestors will not be yours. the songs in his ears, the ones we are singing, you have never heard this language in your life. my eyes are on him, not on your need to insert yourself where you do not belong. your emotions about who you are in the wake of the death of our elder do not belong here. it is inappropriate to seek to bring yourself here.
This makes me so incredibly heart-sore.
Mourning does not belong to anyone. Honouring and celebrating are not the sole duties of demarcated people.
These are activities are for all whose lives were touched by Tata Madiba. As a South African, I am saddened to see a claiming of ownership of a man whose impact and legacy know no bounds.
Besides, arguing about this does nothing to bridge divides he fought so hard to build. We all mourn together, in commemoration of his work, and in recognition of the work still ahead of us.
Hamba kahle, Tata.
Why are we so ashamed of periods? … Women’s bodies are incredibly sexualized in our media and in our every day experiences. So much so that even mentioning menstruation sends a lot of people into kindergarten levels of EW. And why? Because for a moment, you have broken the spell. And suddenly, you are no longer a magical mannequin unicorn fairy existing purely for the sexual fantasy of other people. Suddenly, you’re a human being! (X)